How many of us feel like we go though life without purpose? I know many parents got kids back to school this week. So you probably feel more drained this week than most.
So many people go to work each day and repeat the same patterns for years. This leads to physical exhaustion, a mental lack of clarity and a sense of emptiness.
How many times do we wake up in the morning and realize we have a choice each day.
We have a choice to live life with happiness and gratefulness. Or we have a choice to live life filled with complaints, “drama” and unhappiness.
I know which of these I do each day.
Do you bring happiness to those around you?
Do you live life with gratitude, joy and purpose?
If not, here are some ways to get there.
1. Identify your core values:
Your core values are the things that are the most important to you in your life. These tend to be very different for everyone and range anywhere from health to family to contribution, etc. Take a piece of paper are write down 10 core values. Just dump them out at first. Don’t over think them and don’t judge them. Then, list them by priority. For many of us, family is first, but it is an individual exercise. No right or wrong answers. No judging what you wrote down.
2. Figure out where you are:
Once you have figured out your core values, you can ask yourself if whether what you are doing in your life right now gets you closer to or farther away from living in alignment with those core values. For example, if your core value is family, but you do nothing to reach out to your loved ones on a daily basis and tell them they are loved, then you are probably not working from a place of alignment. In addition, if your top core value is freedom but you are tied down to a 9:00-5:00 job, could it be time to reevaluate your path? Do you want to start a business? Do you want to change your line of work? Do you want to do more charitable work? Figuring out whether you are near or far from your core values in your daily actions will get you moving in the direction of your dreams.
3. Make an action plan:
As a fulfilled full time attorney, passionate philanthropist, lecturer and soon to be published novelist, people always ask me how do I find the time to do it all. The answer for me is simple. I live my life with passion and with a plan. Now I am not here to tell you that at the end of the week, I am not tired. God knows, some weeks, I just want to go home on a Friday night, put my feet up and have a glass of wine and forget the week.
But having a goal and an action plan helps make the week something I can look back on and feel like I accomplished something. A goal and action plan can take you from being a dreamer of great things to being a doer of great things.
If you have decided that you don’t feel aligned where you are right now, make an action plan that will help transport you to where you want to go.
First, make one master statement. This statement will combine your top three core values into one sentence. Then, break that statement into three separate goals.
Here is an example: Statement – I am an inspirational speaker, life coach, and author. Goals – 1. It is January 1, 2015 and I have scheduled one speaking engagement per month. 2. It is January 1, 2015 and I am coaching 10 clients per week. 3. It is January 1, 2015 and my book has been published. These goals will start moving your life in the direction of your purpose.
Once you have identified these goals and committed them to paper, list ten action steps you need to take under each goal. For example, if we pick goal 1 above, the action steps may be: Reach out to local organizations to procure speaking engagements; reach out to corporate wellness programs; create flyers to hand out at events and local businesses; create a newsletter of potential attendees for seminars, etc.
These action steps will bring you clarity on what you need to do to live a purposeful life. This exercise takes your thoughts surrounding purpose and makes them more tangible so you can begin to see them come to life. So you can do what you need to actually accomplish them.
Dreams are just that – dreams. Dreamers are just that – dreamers.
But by following the steps above and taking action to make your dreams a reality, you will find “A Purpose Driven Self Actualized Life.”